High/Ultra sensitivity

People who are short tempered are called sensitive. But for me it was different. I would compare myself to the touch-me-not plant (தொட்டாசினுங்கி). Lately, I was just getting irritated at my sensitivity. Once my collegue was working and I went behind and started talking to him..he jumped off his seat. This didn't surprise me becoz that's exactly what I do when I'm doing something. Its something like "Arjuna's concentration" and I get into another world completely involved in whatever I'm doing and a sudden interference would tense me. So, we both seemed to have a common habit and he told me its not a habit but a trait. I did not beleive him at first till he told me some symptoms and proved that those are common for a minority group of people called "HSPs" (Highly Sensitive People). He showed me a nice article Being Sensitive -- in an Insensitive World . There was another article The ultra-sensitive person which says, "This experience is doubly true with your intimate partner or family members whom is around you more than probably anyone else. The tension can get in the way of having a smooth and easy way of connecting. If you feel some anger some where and you get scared that it may get expressed on you then that will be distracting to your being in intimate contact - it will put distance between you and the other. Now this anger may be something that never needs to be expressed and gets resolved in some other way - in others words it is a part of someone's internal mixture that does not have to be focused on, but with your sensitivities it all seems very real and any history you have may get activated." Some of which I could correlate with me were: * They are born with a nervous system that may see, hear, smell or feel more than others. They may have low tolerance to noise, glaring lights, strong odors, clutter and/or chaos. They tend to have more body awareness of themselves and know instinctually when the environment they are in is not working for them. * When someone is abusing them, they experience sudden pain in stomach, raised body temperature and pulse rate. They retreat into absolute, deadly-calm stillness. They want to scream out, "Stop it! Don't you see you're killing me! Just stop it!" They experience "overwhelm" -- they feel their physical, mental and emotional systems can't tolerate any more. It almost feels like they're being pounded on. They want to run away. * They are very intuitive and can usually sense if someone isn't telling the truth or if something else is wrong. * They are highly affected by other people's moods. If someone around them is crying tears automatically start flowing from their eyes. They see others in them and always get too intimate and the line is too thin. * HSPs can feel happy in their hearts on a joyous occasion but are unable to express it. They are seen as inhibited or unsociable. They do not like social situations and prefer having deep intimate conversations with someone one on one. * They may require an entire night's sleep to be clear enough to express how they feel about an issue. * Sensitive people have a greater capacity for inner searching. * They get a sense of comfort and well being when around a lake, river, stream, the ocean, or even a fountain. * They need frequent alone time to recover from overwhelm or over-stimulation. * They get concerned and worry about many things, and have also been told "you take things too personally." * They make it a high priority to arrange their life to avoid upsetting or overwhelming situations. I tried the sensitivity quiz and my score was 23/27 . So having known I have this trait, is there a way out? Roger says,"If you don't already see your heightened sensitivities as a gift it is harder to be gentle with yourself as you explore the challenges of this kind of life. You were given this capability for a reason, NOT to cause you harm, even though at times you feel hurt and uncomfortable." This makes sense we can't change our god-given features !! Some people suggest Yoga, peaceful walk alone, music..Should try these and see if it helps else neurotherapy seems to be the only option !!