Lord Rama - as a husband?

Ramayana was the first story that I read. Any woman would undertake vratha's to get a husband like Rama. Even, the common blessing from elders would be " Sri Ramarare unakku purushanaa varanum" (You should get Lord Rama itself as your husband). To me, Ramayana showed the story of Sita,Hanuman and Lakshman. Even Urmila (Lakshman's wife) stood high. A few days back, an old lady told me that I look like Sita (Not sure why. May be, the saree made me look good/calm ;-) or because I gave her 10 Rs) and blessed me "Ramanum Sitaiyumaa eppovum santhoshamaa irukanum".(Always be happy like Rama and Sita). It was my wedding day, and that blessing made me happy. Still, I was wondering, Were Rama and Sita ever happy? No offense meant. But I could not accept 2 acts of Rama. 1. An Indian woman is known for her chasity. When atleast 90% of women even in this "KaliYuga" are faithful to their husbands, how can Rama doubt Sita and ask her to undergo "Agni Pariksha"? An ordinary girl, even today, attempts suicide when she is raped/love failure. Wouldn't Sita have killed herself immediately if she wasn't pure? 2. How can he banish her just because some person spoke wrong about her? Didn't he break his oath that he'll take care of her lifelong? Sita said "Whereever you are that is Ayodhya for me?" If he had felt that people won't accept her as a queen, he should have stepped down the throne and accompanied her to the forest. When she can follow him, how can he desert her? Many people gave me a lot of explanations for these 2 questions. But I think these 2 acts are never justifiable. The justification was, he did it for others. Should we live for what others say? He spoiled his life as well as Sita's and their children's because of ignorant/foolish words of someone? He fought with Ravana to get Sita back. Any ordinary person does that for his wife. May be, even God makes mistakes. Rama, was an excellent son and kept his father's promise. He was a good ruler. But was he a good husband/father? As a husband, he fought to get back his wife only to lose her again !! Sita is always the best in my heart. So, it feels good when someone says "Have patience like Sita and be an understanding wife". This might sound silly but right from my childhood days, I never wanted my husband to be like "Rama", being a "eka-pathini-virathan" and deserting his wife. I should say, Rama is not my favourite. I think its not fair to bless saying "You should get a husband like Sri Rama". He is not a special/exemplar husband !! Disclaimer: It's just my personal opinion. Devotees please don't take it personally !!